I first heard about Marie Kondo and the kon mari method about 6 months ago. At the time it seemed like everyone was talking about The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. Marie Kondo was like a literary sensation level: Oprah’s Book Club.
I decided to finally get more familiar with her methods after reading L’Art de la Simplicite, a book that serendipitously came into my life (through a Goodreads Giveaway) at exactly the right time.
My interest in minimalism and decluttering came in a lot of ways as a natural extension of my journey into body awareness. As I became more aware of my body and started to recognize the physical effects of different emotional states, I realized that different spaces also exert an influence on how we feel.
I started looking at our home in a different way than before. I’ve always been exceptionally concerned with keeping the house clean, mostly the product of my eastern european upbringing. Recently though my concern for cleaning has been more a function of personal development than one of keeping up with appearances. I want my home to feel good to me and be easy to live in so I can get on with life.
So between spending an inordinate amount of time cleaning and also wanting a good energy space to live in I was convinced that I needed to start decluttering.
In the spring I spent two weeks decluttering the whole basement while listening to The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up on YouTube. I used it more as inspiration and less as an actual guide, even though she specifically warns against deviating from her exact plan.
It didn’t take long before I found myself cleaning more and more often. Every time I noticed the clutter reemerging I heard Marie Kondo’s words in my head. If you don’t do it fully and in the right order, the clutter will come back.
Bogdan and I have a lot on the go right now. We want to move to Europe very soon and that’s been the biggest thing on our minds for months. All our plans revolve around that major goal and sometimes it feels like our lives are on hold until we achieve it.
On top of that I’m trying to grow a business, freelancing on the side, and also getting more familiar with the international job hunt (which I’m learning is a totally different game from local jobs). Bogdan and I kept saying that decluttering should be left for later since we can figure it out once we have jobs secured. Now, as I find myself constantly cleaning again and unable to focus when I can’t stop thinking about what we need to do in the house before we leave, I’m starting to think that it just needs to be done now. Maybe clearing out the old energy and making room for new ideas is exactly what we need.
But when we really delve into the reasons for why we can’t let something go, there are only two: an attachment to the past or a fear for the future. Marie Kondo in The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up
So I’m giving the Kon Mari method an actual chance this time. I’m going to try to pay attention and follow the rules. First step: discard.